Finding the perfect balance between motherhood, work and marriage isn’t easy. I know no one said it would be, but I find myself being lost. Lost in all the commotion and trying to find a way to organize it all, hasn’t been easy. Actually I am still trying.
Ever since Mavi arrived, our priorities shifted. Adding a baby to the equation, to what we had been used to, isn’t all nice an dandy. I find myself arguing with the hubs because he finds I don’t do enough around the house, I find he doesn’t do enough with the baby… like I said, everything is unbalanced at the moment. Plus, we decided it would be best (for my sanity, and budget) if I started accepting new design contracts so adding that to the pile makes things a little more hectic. But I am optimistic things will work themselves out.
I spoke to some friends who’ve been having similar issues with managing the marriage/work life and I liked what they had to say about what they do to make things work. Obviously with a baby in the mix, I have to modify how I will make things work. But still…
So this is what we do (just starting) :
- Split the house chores (using a chart) so we can easily check off what’s been done.
- Have a one night free ( no computers, no iphones ) so we can spend time together
- I try and get a full days work done without having to take care of the baby
(even if it’s only 2 hours a day) - I downloaded the most efficient task management app for my iphone
which allows me to manage house, work and life stuff. - Try to have 1 date night a month as to not loose ourselves in the daily routine
We also want to travel at least once a year. (Actually I want this) Doesn’t need to be somewhere far, but a place where we can get away from the routine and think about us. This year, we are taking a four day trip to Toronto. Next year, we want to go down south.
What are you doing to manage your life? Any tips I should know of?
Posted by: Kelly | Glamour This! official blog of Blushink with 2 comments
Excellent post, Kelly
this is THE challenge I think for any family, but especially for the ones with young children, where you’re still discovering yourselves as partners and figuring out how to manage everything. Definitely, charts, family schedules, planned couple time and family time, and communication (not always easy) are the essential keys. Did I mention therapy? Doesn’t hurt and helps individuals and the couple work through personal issues that would otherwise be projected into the daily challenges and play out messily and hurtfully. Good luck girl! 
I’m working on this too!! So far I’m finding if I have dedicated “work” days or times, then I can dedicate the rest of my week to family and house time. Knowing these work days really helps. And I don’t know if you have a laptop or not, but just getting out of the house to design at a bookstore or elsewhere really helps me! Some how I now get an 8 hour day done in 2 – 3 hours because I really have to narrow focus my time.